For the longest time, we have had to keep our mouths shut. But now you’re in the company of Gentlemen.
Your shiny shoes click on the street as you turn up toward her house. You're armed with the best and most expensive bouquet of flowers the store had and there may even be some fancy chocolates or something shiny in your possession. She opens the door and you’re all aflutter and soon enough, you’ll be kissing her hand and her ass (same thing) just to impress her. Stop stooping and stand up. Don't try to impress women.
Stop selling out your gender
Almost every man is guilty of it: trying to impress women so that they will date you, sleep with you, stay with you, etc. Still, it may even seem like the logical thing to do in that bar or club or on that first date. Maybe you say something smart and try to look worldly and deep. Maybe you rent or borrow a really nice car to show up in. Or maybe you spend more than you can afford on dinner. Whatever the trick, you’re trying to impress a woman, and that is the worst thing to do. Why? Because, slowly but surely, you are doing your gender a disservice. Your attempts to impress women are really groveling and you’re perpetuating the myth that guys should have to stoop to please.
A man’s attempt to impress women sells out his dignity, his confidence and his self-esteem. He stops being himself, speaking his mind, giving his opinion, and making decisions as a real man should.
Excuse me Sir, have you seen your balls?
This self-emasculation only gives life to the idea that a man must bow down, work like a dog and prove himself worthy to the women he dates. Forget about whether he’s a good man or a stand-up guy. Impressing women is about what you can do for them and not about who you are. Instead of cutting off your pair, try growing them. Once you start down that road of trying to impress women, you do not become their equal; you become their lap dog.
There was a time when men were men and talked to women instead of trying to impress them. Somewhere along the way, fellas began to believe that putting women on pedestals was the only way to get their attention. No, putting them on some make-believe podium will really push them away and leave you a nutless disappointment to mankind.
“Well, Sir, if I shouldn’t impress her, what should I do instead?” Just be yourself with your own confidence. Most men run around with hooks in their cheeks and leashes on their necks trying to please some woman or another. Be you. Any woman worth talking to will communicate with the real you, a man who stands up straight and speaks his mind. Impressing her will only leave you a slave.
She “Should” Already Know
As a man of high regard (maybe in your own mind), you should have already impressed her with the sheer fact that you are who you are. The reason why you conduct yourself in a Gentlemanly manner is because you have set yourself apart from the masses. There is no situation where you should compromise yourself in the face of a Woman. If it’s funny, laugh. If you’re hungry, eat. There should never be a time where you call a spade a heart. So this charade that that you have going for the sake of her emotions is something that you need to stop. It’s a lie, and a Gentleman never lies. Be the one you were when you met her. If she is really right for you, then she will accept that fact.
Never exchange who you are for who she wants you to be. Trust me, it only leads to a loss of friends, an empty bank account and the revocation of your Gentleman’s Club Membership (or a non admittance is you are seeking one).
IMPRESS US, BABY
With all the talk of equality and role reversal, try this: Instead of submitting to women for their approval, guys should be waiting for women to put their own dignity and self-respect on the line. Ladies should find their own ways to impress men.
I am a Gentleman, and as such, I make no apologies.
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